As a little gift to myself, I am going to skip the medical stuff and just share some thoughts on motherhood. Back to arthritis on Monday. As many of you know, my mother lost her battle with ovarian cancer in 2007. Before that, Mother’s Day was all about the giving. I would make sure my girls had new outfits, the cards were all sent, the gifts for mothers, grandmothers and godmothers were all bought. We would cross two bridges in traffic to celebrate with family and it was always exhausting. I never thought of it as a day for me, but I loved every minute of it. My mother was worth celebrating! Since 2007, Mother’s Day has been all about the grieving. My children hand me homemade cards and gifts and I fake joy and excitement so as not to disappoint them. We stay at home and keep it simple but it feels like more work — faking it is always tiring and probably never worth the effort. Mother’s Day is truly a day when it is better to give than to receive. So, this year, I am taking a new approach. I am going to just be grateful for God’s most beautiful and renewable gift – that of a mother. Let us remember what we are acknowledging on Sunday (other than the ceaseless creativity of Hallmark) … mothers are awesome. If you are a mother, you are amazing. Look at your children and be in awe of the miracle you produced in your body … not without discomfort and deformity … but still miraculous. If you are a father, appreciate for a moment the gift you have received from your children’s mother. Yes, you contributed, but don’t get me started on the inequity there. “I would rather you just say thank you and be on your way.” [Classic scene, name the movie.] The following are 5 of my favorite quotes about mothers.
1. The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new. ~Rajneesh
2. A mother is someone who, seeing that there are only 4 pieces of pie for 5 people, promptly declares that she never did care much for pie. ~Tenneva Jordan
3. If the whole world were put into one scale, and my mother in the other, the whole world would kick the beam. ~Lord Langdale (Henry Bickersteth)
4. Babies don’t need fathers, but mothers do. Someone who is taking care of a baby needs to be taken care of. ~Amy Heckerling
5. If evolution really works, how come mothers only have two hands? ~Milton Berle
This Mother’s Day, I plan on splitting my time into thirds. I will be spend 1/3 of the day looking down at my children, 1/3 looking inward and 1/3 looking up. I am going to allow myself the range of emotion that this will evoke. Through the tears, the soul searching and the laughter, I will try to remain grateful. When God created mothers, He really knew what he was doing. He provided mothers with a love so powerful, so enduring and so insane, to ensure we would not destroy our young – God knows they often deserve it. Happy Mother’s Day!