I am reading a great book right now. It is the first book I have ever read on parenting. Last weekend, I had to clean my twin boys’ room after one of them (we’ll call him Twin A) got his diaper off and decided to throw the contents at Twin B. Twin B was laughing like he was smoking weed and I was downstairs listening to all the “fun” and cherishing the beauty of the moment. Perhaps I should have read some parenting books sooner. Anyway, I am enjoying “The Blessing of a Skinned Knee” by Wendy Mogul. It is similar to the book I have always wanted to write about peerenting. My working title is, “We Are a World Gone Mad – Myself Included.” Mogul, a child psychologist, decided to write her book when she realized that many parents were disappointed when their children didn’t receive a clinical diagnosis. She found that it was easier for many parents to accept that their child was different or not gifted and talented when they could label them with a psychiatric condition. That’s how I feel this week. I am slightly disappointed that I don’t have ADHD. I want to assign blame to someone or something other than me!
Here are some tips for those of us who are just plain forgetful and disorganized.
1. Have a place for everything and make a habit of always putting things back where they belong, i.e. put your keys, sunglasses and wallet in the same spot every day.
2. Do not write things down on scraps of paper or the backs of napkins. Have one system and have it accessible. It can be electronic or paper but it needs to be the only place that you write down information that you will need to access later.
3. Have routines. While this may make life incredibly boring, it will create an atmosphere of organization. Surprise birthday parties are great but you don’t need to be surprised by the huge pile of laundry that is building up.
4. Clean as you go. This works great for the house but extend it to your bag, junk drawer, car, etc. When you see something that needs to be cleaned or thrown away, just do it.
5. Start small. Baby steps. Pick a part of your life that feels especially overwhelming and address it. Don’t try to organize everything at once, as you will get the same result you get with yo-yo dieting.
Those of you who read YesFive regularly, know that I always contract whatever it is I am writing about. This week, I have not been able to complete a sentence, sit down for more than five minutes, remember to mail the letters that are stamped and in my car, or make a decision. My wonderful friend, after shaking me to get my attention, compared me to a method actor. Instead of calling me a lunatic, which would have been accurate, she said that I absorb my topic the way a great actor absorbs his character. Is there anything in this world better than a good friend? To continue in this vein of optimism, I am going to focus next week on positivity and how it affects your health. This is going to be very difficult for me because my glasses are always half empty – or, too often, completely empty. Speaking of which, I had tried a Chateauneuf-du-Pape wine last night – how fun is that to say?